A long lasting relationship can retain much of the charm of the early days; to achieve this creativity is needed to overcome laziness and comfortable routines. We suggest ten recommendations to keep the excitement and enthusiasm alive.
- Each day plan of conquest
Assume that because the game is won and not to do anything to conquer the other is the first step in the deterioration of the relationship. Remember the most useful at the beginning of the relationship and implement strategies, and new actions based on the knowledge we have of the couple, keep the spark and excitement and prevent the other or oneself into something as obvious as the living room sofa.
- Have a life
When all have experiences that will live in couples, there comes a point where there is nothing new to talk about. Having own friends, individual interests, independent activities of the couple, are convenient for both the person and the relationship: oxygenates, gives talking points, encourages new activities, new friends, in short, enrich everyday life.
- Modify routines
Routines prevail because they are comfortable, but can become automatic and therefore lose the excitement. Break is easier than you think. It is to give room for spontaneity, daring to make proposals unusual comfort for change and action. For example, take advantage of a sunny day in the week and found somewhere in town after work to talk as night falls.
- Be interested in what the other
Hobbies, tastes, interests and knowledge of the other, can bring you much the universe itself. There will always be an angle of what the other does; it can generate curiosity in the couple. It’s not just say “I do not like football,” but try to understand why he likes the other. With this attitude they are overcome prejudices and expand horizons. In addition, shared spaces are created.
- Having exclusive moments to share between two
When there are children involved, there is little space you have to share with friends. Grandparents, uncles, the family in general, can be helpful to have a few moments alone. Also in everyday life you can reserve some spaces for living with a partner: when children have gone to bed or early, before they rise. The fact is, never forget that the other, outside of being “the father or the mother of my children is my partner”.
- A good sexual relationship
The stress and the daily fatigue are not the best companions for a relationship. Find or create suitable (also emotional) environments and avoid “automatic” meetings are good ways to maintain a dynamic and exciting relationship. Preparing food together, unhurried and announcing in advance so that both are in the same vein, it is a good way to be available for sex.
- Always be a challenge
One of the fundamental factors to be happy is to have a challenge, something you have to achieve. That which is believed already achieved, loses interest. The concept of unconditional support in the couple is dangerous and irresponsible attitudes and promotes actions: “You’ll be there, whatever you do.” When both people are clear that they have to “win” every day to the other, they contribute their best and do their best to make the relationship continue.
- Make caresses new release
In the caresses lives the instinctive and rational. Tenderness, solidarity, support, feelings are often expressed more clearly and forcefully with a hug or a handshake, than words. Caresses have a therapeutic effect, reduce stress, relax and create an irreplaceable link. You can caress with your fingertips or with the whole hand, with the back or a simple finger play. There are hundreds of ways to explore and express feelings other.
- Being buddies
Before being a couple, it is important that both are friends. Life cannot become only obligations and responsibilities. It is building a life and a future in common, but spaces of relaxation, leisure, fun and playfulness are also needed. Being buddies follies, it creates a very strong and rewarding relationship.
- Avoid being the “typical” anything
Free of stereotypes or avoid falling into them is a way to keep the “identity”. Each builds your day and your life your way. It is easy to do so under the pre-made recipes society but is more enriching and rewarding doing it according to your own formula. A relationship is like a plant to be cultivated day. Details and patience with others are the basis for a loving relationship work and last in time. Following the above tips can improve your relationship so that harmony and happiness again visit your heart. Learn them and practice them.